This is a diagram that shows the aspects of a healthy, equal relationship:
Source: www.duluth-model.org
Equality/Non-Violence Wheel
Non -Threatening Behaviour
- Talking and acting so that she feels safe and comfortable expressing herself and doing things.
Respect
- Listening to her non-judgmentally
- Being emotionally affirming and understanding
- Valuing opinions
Trust and support
- Supporting her goals in life
- Repecting her own feelings, friends, activities and opinions
Honesty and accountability
- accepting responsibility for self
- acknowledging past use of violence
- admitting being wrong
- communicating openly and truthfully
Responsible parenting
- Sharing parental responsibilities
- Being positive non-violent role model for the children
- Share responsibility
- mutually agreeing on fair distribution of work
- making family decisions together
Economic partnership
- Making money decisions together
- Making sure both partners benefit from financial arrangements
Negotiation and fairness
- Seeking mutually satisfying resolution to conflict
- accepting change
- being willing to compromise